{"id":4222,"date":"2024-04-24T23:05:43","date_gmt":"2024-04-24T16:05:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/wordpress\/?p=4222"},"modified":"2024-12-21T00:16:17","modified_gmt":"2024-12-20T17:16:17","slug":"dan-ong-dan-ba-yeu-thien-so-huu-vo-so-huu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/?p=4222","title":{"rendered":"\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 – y\u00eau – thi\u1ec1n – s\u1edf h\u1eefu – v\u00f4 s\u1edf h\u1eefu"},"content":{"rendered":"

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi: T\u1ea1i sao th\u1ea7y cho ph\u00e9p \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n tr\u00ean t\u00f4i, \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hay b\u00e1c b\u1ecf t\u00f4i? L\u1ed1i m\u00f2n c\u0169 n\u00e0y ch\u1eb3ng t\u1ea1o ra ngh\u0129a g\u00ec \u1edf tim. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n tho\u00e1t ra.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Abhiyana, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 bi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng? – \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 y\u00eau \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng. H\u1ecd bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng t\u00ecm ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng, ai \u0111\u00f3 g\u00e0n g\u00e0n v\u00e0 h\u00e2m h\u00e2m. V\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00e2m h\u00e2m r\u1ea5t h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn: ng\u01b0\u1eddi g\u00e0n g\u00e0n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng, c\u00f3 t\u1eeb l\u1ef1c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ea7y nh\u1eefng tri\u1ec3n v\u1ecdng, m\u01a1. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u01a1.<\/p>\n

C\u00f2n \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u00ec sao? \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng y\u00eau \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh – b\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t \u0111i\u00ean – \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef cho h\u1ecd tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea5t. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n cho \u0111\u1ea5t. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 v\u00ec anh ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 r\u1ec5 trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a anh ta. Anh ta c\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, \u0111\u1ea5t \u1ea5m, \u0111\u1ea5t t\u1ed1i, n\u01a1i anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ecdc r\u1ec5 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eaft r\u1ec5 trong \u0111\u1ea5t. Anh ta s\u1ee3 – anh ta c\u00f3 c\u00e1nh nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 r\u1ec5. V\u00e0 anh ta s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu anh ta kh\u00f4ng gi\u1eef l\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ea5t anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t \u0111i, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t v\u00e0o b\u1ea7u tr\u1eddi v\u00f4 h\u1ea1n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c quay l\u1ea1i. N\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1eef m\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ch\u1ea1y theo \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1nh. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 r\u1ec5, r\u1ec5 l\u1edbn; \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5t thu\u1ea7n. V\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u1eabn c\u00f2n m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh c\u00f4 \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng bay v\u00e0o trong c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u01a1 nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean m\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ea1o ra th\u01a1 ca hay \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c l\u1edbn. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1nh, h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t tr\u1ea7n t\u1ee5c, r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c – v\u00e0 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean. H\u1ecd l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh th\u1ebf, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m th\u01a1. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 m\u1ea5t tr\u00ed n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u01a1. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, ch\u1ec9 th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m th\u01a1.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0m ra danh s\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed3 gi\u1eb7t, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u00e0i th\u01a1 – danh s\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed3 \u0111i ch\u1ee3. M\u1ed1i quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u1ea5y l\u00e0 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nh\u00e0 h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m; c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng lo ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 Vi\u1ec7t Nam hay Israel. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0o m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, v\u00e0o \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng – sao h\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ebf? V\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u00e2m v\u00e0o k\u00edch \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u1ebf! N\u1ebfu c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra \u1edf Israel, n\u00f3 \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra \u1edf Israel – sao anh lo ngh\u0129? V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u1edf nh\u00e0 h\u00e0ng x\u00f3m \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ed1n \u0111i v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c – c\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 m\u1edbi l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c; n\u00f3 g\u1ea7n g\u0169i th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi gospel – c\u1ea9m nang, h\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m t\u1edbi gossip – chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ea7m ph\u00e0o. C\u1ea3 hai t\u1eeb n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t g\u1ed1c. Khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i xa x\u00f4i, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 gospel – c\u1ea9m nang, khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i c\u1eadn k\u1ec1 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 gossip – chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ea7m ph\u00e0o. Khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i g\u1ea7n g\u0169i n\u00f3 l\u00e0 gossip, khi n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i t\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00f3 l\u00e0 gospel.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, v\u00ec th\u1ebf th\u00ec anh ta m\u1ea5t r\u1ec5. Anh ta \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh k\u1ebb lang thang. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec anh ta kh\u00f4ng thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ch\u1ed7 n\u00e0o c\u1ea3. C\u1ee9 nh\u00ecn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 m\u00e0 xem: anh ta kh\u00f4ng thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o \u0111\u00e2u c\u1ea3, anh ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u00e0, anh ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ea3nh g\u1ed7 tr\u00f4i gi\u1ea1t, s\u00f3ng \u0111\u01b0a anh ta \u0111i b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ch\u1ed7 n\u00e0o – tr\u1eeb phi anh ta v\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3; th\u1ebf th\u00ec nh\u00e0 n\u1ea3y sinh.<\/p>\n

C\u00e1c nh\u00e0 nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng nh\u00e0 l\u00e0 s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. N\u1ebfu \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u00e0 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 n\u1ec1n v\u0103n minh. Anh ta ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebb lang thang, th\u1ee3 s\u0103n; anh ta ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i t\u1eeb g\u00f3c n\u00e0y sang g\u00f3c kh\u00e1c. Tr\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea5y: \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111ang c\u1ed1 \u0111i t\u1edbi t\u1edbi h\u00e0nh tinh kh\u00e1c; kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u00e3 l\u00ean t\u1edbi m\u1eb7t tr\u0103ng. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0o to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 c\u00e1i h\u00e2m h\u00e2m n\u00e0y. H\u1eebm? \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 k\u1ebb h\u00e2m h\u00e2m, h\u1ecd quan t\u00e2m nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ebf t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c l\u00ean m\u1eb7t tr\u0103ng, ch\u1ecb h\u1eb1ng. \u0110\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec? B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111i mua b\u00e1n \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. D\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ch\u1eb3ng quan tr\u1ecdng ch\u00fat n\u00e0o! V\u00e0 ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi, kh\u00f4ng chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ea7m ph\u00e0o, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf – ch\u1ec9 sa m\u1ea1c tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0 k\u1ebb lang thang, k\u1ebb kh\u00f4ng nh\u00e0. Do \u0111\u00f3, s\u1edbm hay mu\u1ed9n, anh ta c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eaft r\u1ec5. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a anh ta. Ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ch\u01b0a t\u00ecm ra c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 trong anh ta m\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a anh ta, ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ch\u01b0a t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u00ean trong ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, anh ta s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i.<\/p>\n

V\u00e2ng, \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 – m\u1ed9t Ph\u1eadt, hay m\u1ed9t Jesus. Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd n\u1eefa \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 – h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. V\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. N\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi – b\u1ed1 v\u00e0 m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n. B\u1ed1 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng trong b\u1ea1n, m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 trong b\u1ea1n. T\u1eebng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u0103m m\u01b0\u01a1i ph\u1ea7n tr\u0103m, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u0103m m\u01b0\u01a1i ph\u1ea7n tr\u0103m.<\/p>\n

Ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n ch\u01b0a quay v\u00e0o b\u00ean trong b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 t\u00ecm ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 hay \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u1edf \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i nh\u00ecn ra ngo\u00e0i. C\u00e1i b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i thay th\u1ebf. B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i:<\/p>\n

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T\u1ea1i sao th\u1ea7y cho ph\u00e9p \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n tr\u00ean t\u00f4i?<\/p>\n

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V\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 h\u1ecd b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh. V\u00e0 c\u00f9ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 – kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng h\u1ecd s\u1ebd qu\u00e1 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, v\u00e0 qu\u00e1 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh. L\u00e0 qu\u00e1 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1; l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 h\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 m\u00faa \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Cho n\u00ean \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ea7n ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u01a1 v\u1ec1 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u00e0 cho anh \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 – ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y c\u1ef1c kia c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u00ean trong b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n. Khi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra c\u1ef1c kia b\u00ean trong, anh ta tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh c\u1ef1c th\u00edch to\u00e0n b\u1ed9. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhu c\u1ea7u nh\u00ecn ra ngo\u00e0i. D\u1ea7u v\u1eady b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c y\u00eau \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, nh\u01b0ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u00e1m v\u00edu. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu hay b\u1ecb s\u1edf h\u1eefu. Khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm ra s\u1ef1 th\u1ed1ng nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u1edf b\u00ean trong, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd v\u1eabn y\u00eau \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 \u00e1m \u1ea3nh, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb. V\u00e0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec y\u00eau l\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m vui. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec y\u00eau c\u00f3 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9; b\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ed3n ch\u1ed3n trong n\u00f3. B\u1ed3n ch\u1ed3n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3, b\u1edfi l\u00ed do t\u00e2m l\u00ed n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 hay tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o c\u00f4 \u1ea5y. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu – \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c th\u1ebf l\u00ean b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tha th\u1ee9 cho c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. V\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0y c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tha th\u1ee9 cho b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5t. Tr\u1eddi bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, sao bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f4 \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea5t – t\u1ed1i t\u0103m, ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i ai \u0111\u00f3. Ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i ai \u0111\u00f3 t\u1edbi v\u00e0 n\u1edf hoa trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f4 \u1ea5y, ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i ai \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m tho\u00e1t ra h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m c\u1ee7a c\u00f4 \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111ang y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng? H\u1ecd mang m\u00f9i v\u1ecb kh\u00e1c – th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i, h\u1ecd mang m\u00f9i v\u1ecb kh\u00e1c; h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 kh\u00e1c. Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 n\u1ed7i bu\u1ed3n quanh c\u00f4 \u1ea5y: bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n, \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c, hoang v\u1eafng, trong th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, ch\u1ec9 lo \u00e2u. Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc c\u00f4 \u1ea5y r\u01a1i v\u00e0o trong y\u00eau c\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u n\u1edf hoa. C\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c m\u1edf ra. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng trong y\u00eau th\u00ec co l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u00f3ng l\u1ea1i; c\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1ed1ng trong c\u00e2m l\u1eb7ng. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y \u0111\u00f3ng c\u00e1c c\u1eeda ra v\u00e0o v\u00e0 c\u1eeda s\u1ed5. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i – sao \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1eeda s\u1ed5 m\u1edf hay c\u1eeda ra v\u00e0o m\u1edf? C\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i n\u1ea5m m\u1ed3; c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u1eefa. C\u00f4 \u1ea5y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ch\u1ebft, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh t\u1ef1 t\u1eed. Ch\u1ec9 to\u00e1n h\u1ecdc, ch\u1ec9 s\u1ed1 h\u1ecdc, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7. Th\u01a1 ca n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1eef c\u00e2n b\u1eb1ng.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 v\u1ebb l\u1ea1c l\u00f5ng; anh ta kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ai. Ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o anh ta c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a th\u1ea5y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh trong m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 y\u00eau, anh ta s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ai. Anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c l\u00e0m T\u0103ng c\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ee9ng ng\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a Amida v\u00e0 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c h\u1ecfi “T\u00f4i l\u00e0 ai? T\u00f4i l\u00e0 ai?” V\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi n\u00e0o s\u1ebd t\u1edbi – tr\u1eeb phi anh ta nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o trong m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a y\u00eau. Ch\u1ec9 th\u1ebf th\u00ec anh ta s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ea3n x\u1ea1, ch\u1ec9 th\u1ebf th\u00ec trong t\u1ea5m g\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u00f3 anh ta s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y anh ta l\u00e0 ai.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 cho anh ta h\u00ecnh d\u1ea1ng, b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 l\u00e0m anh ta nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 anh ta l\u00e0 ai. B\u1eb1ng y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, c\u00f4 \u1ea5y t\u1ea1o ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra b\u1edfi m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n trong b\u1ee5ng m\u1eb9 \u0111\u00e2u; b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ea1o ra b\u1edfi t\u1eebng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau. B\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec1u cho b\u1ea1n h\u00ecnh d\u1ea1ng, m\u1ea7u s\u1eafc, s\u1ef1 tinh t\u1ebf; c\u00f4 \u1ea5y l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n th\u00e0nh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1eb1ng kh\u00f4ng, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t man r\u1ee3, b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh, hung h\u0103ng, thi\u1ebfu tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n, kh\u00f4ng t\u1eeb bi.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 c\u1ea3 hai ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c l\u1eabn nhau v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng – kh\u00f4ng ai mu\u1ed1n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c. V\u00e0 cho d\u00f9 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ai, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng tha th\u1ee9 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3 th\u00f9.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau li\u00ean t\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ea5u tranh. \u0110\u1ea5u tranh kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 g\u00ec ngo\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng “T\u00f4i v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp \u0111\u1ea5y – anh ngh\u0129 sao?” \u0110\u1ea5u tranh ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng “T\u00f4i v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf c\u00f4 \u1ea5y.” \u0110\u1ea5u tranh ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0… ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 ngh\u0129, “T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c th\u1ebf v\u00e0o anh ta \u0111\u00e2u. T\u00f4i v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1edf hoa m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i v\u1eabn s\u1ebd h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 anh – anh ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n anh?”<\/p>\n

Do \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ea5u tranh, ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m tra s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Nh\u01b0ng trong v\u00f2ng v\u00e0i gi\u1edd cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ea5u tranh qua \u0111i, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i \u00f4m nhau. V\u00ec kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc h\u1ecd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00e1ch nhau ra, h\u1ecd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u1ed9t ng\u1ea1t, \u0111\u00f3i, kh\u00e1t. H\u1ecd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u1ea5t \u0111i b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3. H\u01a1i \u1ea5m b\u1ecb thi\u1ebfu, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u1ea1nh l\u1ebdo. V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ai \u00f4m ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 y\u00eau, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu y\u00eau l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u00e0 ch\u00e2n l\u00ed v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn. Ch\u1ec9 y\u00eau m\u1edbi cho b\u1ea1n nh\u1eefng tho\u00e1ng nh\u00ecn r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng. B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i:<\/p>\n

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T\u1ea1i sao th\u1ea7y cho ph\u00e9p \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n tr\u00ean t\u00f4i?<\/p>\n

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\u0110\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e2u, Abhiyana. M\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec1u cho ph\u00e9p quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c \u0111\u00f3. V\u00e0 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i n\u00f3. M\u1ecdi anh ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ee3 v\u1ee3 – m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, t\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1eady. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 lo\u1ea1i ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00e1c. D\u00f9 v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd n\u00e0o, lo\u1ea1i ch\u1ed3ng duy nh\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ee3 v\u1ee3.<\/p>\n

Khi c\u00e2y l\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u ch\u1ea5t nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng th\u1ebf t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea5t, n\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c; n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. V\u00e0 khi \u0111\u1ea5t th\u1ea5y ni\u1ec1m vui ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, m\u1edf h\u1ed9i c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1edfi c\u00e2y – t\u00e1n l\u00e1 xanh v\u00e0 hoa \u0111\u1ecf, v\u00e0 c\u00e1c c\u00e0nh v\u01b0\u01a1n cao tr\u00ean tr\u1eddi – \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea5t bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng mu\u1ed1n, c\u00f3 c\u00e1nh, v\u00e0 gi\u1edd ch\u00fang c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3 – l\u00e0m sao \u0111\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c?<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i trong m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i li\u00ean thu\u1ed9c. \u0110\u1ed9c l\u1eadp, h\u1ecd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda – \u0111\u00f3i, ch\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3i v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. Li\u00ean thu\u1ed9c l\u00e0 ch\u00e2n l\u00ed – nh\u01b0ng th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi s tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi, su\u1ed1t nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i, \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng tr\u1ed1n kh\u1ecfi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n cho th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. H\u1ecd th\u1ef1c tr\u1ed1n kh\u1ecfi c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c; h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n ch\u00fat n\u00e0o.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tu\u00f4n ch\u1ea3y trong m\u01a1. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng l\u00e0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng; kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0o b\u1ecb h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn t\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng m\u01a1 t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u00f3 v\u1ebb l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n. Anh ta c\u00f3 s\u1ee9c l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n. M\u1eaft anh ta lo\u00e9 l\u00ean v\u1edbi c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. Anh ta c\u00f3 chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 – chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00f3 cho anh ta ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

Trong t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, quan s\u00e1t xem: chim v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec7u m\u00faa hay nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfng h\u00f3t hay nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c con c\u00e1i t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eefa. Quan s\u00e1t bao nhi\u00eau \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 d\u1ec5 nh\u00ecn b\u00e2u quanh c\u00e1c nh\u1ea1c s\u0129, ca s\u0129 v\u00e0 di\u1ec5n vi\u00ean? \u0110\u1ec3 l\u00e0m g\u00ec? C\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00f4i cu\u1ed1n, c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a th\u1ebf gian n\u00e0y, c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee7a c\u00f5i b\u00ean kia – v\u00e0 h\u1ecd l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1ecb h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean; c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng l\u1eabn cho nhau. V\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i. B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i:<\/p>\n

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B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t v\u00e0o. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng th\u1ebf \u0111\u00e2u – m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ea5y. Tho\u00e1t v\u00e0o \u0111i, s\u00e2u nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. \u0110\u1eebng trong v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng th\u1ebf. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n tho\u00e1t ra, v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t ra, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i tho\u00e1t v\u00e0o l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa. \u0110i qua to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 s\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn n\u00e0y \u0111i, \u0111i t\u1edbi ch\u00ednh t\u1eadn c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. Nh\u00ecn n\u00f3 th\u1ea5u su\u1ed1t \u0111i.<\/p>\n

Trong khi \u0111\u00f3, li\u00ean t\u1ee5c thi\u1ec1n v\u00e0 nh\u00ecn hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0y \u0111i. \u0110\u1eebng hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3 theo c\u00e1ch con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng mang t\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u n\u00f3 theo c\u00e1ch con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u l\u1ea7m to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 s\u1ef1 vi\u1ec7c t\u1eeb ch\u00ednh l\u00fac ban \u0111\u1ea7u. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec gi\u1eefa b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1eefa n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 gi\u1eefa n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng nam v\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u1eef.<\/p>\n

C\u1ee9 quan s\u00e1t n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan s\u00e1t t\u00e1ch r\u1eddi. \u0110\u1eebng \u0111em c\u00e1c b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3 nh\u1ecf b\u00e9 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0o trong n\u00f3 – ch\u00fang l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng li\u00ean quan. Ch\u00fang t\u1ea1o ra \u0111\u1ed1ng l\u1ed9n x\u1ed9n, ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng gi\u00fap cho vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u n\u00e0o. Ch\u1ec9 th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. V\u00e0, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, ch\u00ednh vi\u1ec7c thin \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00ecm ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u00ean trong b\u1ea1n – c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 ng\u00e0y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u quay v\u00e0o trong, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t ra. B\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c tho\u00e1t v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n t\u1edbi chi\u1ec1u s\u00e2u m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n… n\u00f3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u00fd th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 nam t\u00ednh, v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 n\u1eef t\u00ednh. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u00fd th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 n\u1eef t\u00ednh, v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 nam t\u00ednh. C\u1ee9 ch\u00ecm s\u00e2u v\u00e0o trong v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c \u0111i.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u thi\u1ec1n t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 l\u00e0 g\u00ec. Li\u00ean t\u1ee5c y\u00eau, li\u00ean t\u1ee5c tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m vui v\u00e0 kh\u1ed5 m\u00e0 y\u00eau mang t\u1edbi. Ch\u00fang t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n ch\u00edn ch\u1eafn v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. V\u00e0 trong khi \u0111\u00f3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c thi\u1ec1n. C\u1ea3 hai qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh n\u00e0y, y\u00eau v\u00e0 thi\u1ec1n, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang li\u00ean t\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u00ecm ra \u1edf b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecm ra \u1edf b\u00ean trong theo c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 m\u1ed9t khi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra, th\u1ebf th\u00ec v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 \u00fd th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1, b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ardhanarishwar – b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u00f9ng nhau. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00f3 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t to\u00e0n b\u1ed9; ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nh\u01b0 c\u0169 n\u1eefa. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1eabn y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c n\u1eefa. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd n\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u1eabn y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ni\u1ec1m vui thu\u1ea7n khi\u1ebft, n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng tr\u00e0n ng\u1eadp. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i trao n\u00f3 cho ai \u0111\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh n\u1eefa – v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c c\u00f9ng nhau.<\/p>\n

Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u1edf m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf c\u00f9ng, th\u1ebf th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd trong n\u1eafm gi\u1eef c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng “Ai \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eafm quy\u1ec1n tr\u00ean t\u00f4i.” Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng tranh \u0111\u1ea5u v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, v\u00ec th\u1ebf th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 tranh \u0111\u1ea5u. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp chia s\u1ebb \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, chia s\u1ebb t\u1ef1 do m\u00eanh m\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i chia s\u1ebb, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng d\u00e0nh cho \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u01a1 kh\u00e1c – ch\u1ec9 b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u00e0n ng\u1eadp. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u00f4 l\u1ec7. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ee7 v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u1ea5y v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ee7. V\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai s\u1edf h\u1eefu b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ai. M\u1ecdi s\u1edf h\u1eefu bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n

T\u1ea1i sao t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu n\u00e0y t\u1edbi trong t\u00e2m tr\u00ed l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i m\u00e3i? T\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n ghen th\u1ebf v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1edf h\u1eefu th\u1ebf? L\u00ed do l\u00e0: b\u1ea1n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c, b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecf b\u1ea1n v\u00e0o ng\u00e0y mai, b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd m\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0m g\u00ec trong \u0111\u00eam l\u1ea1nh, c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n? B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ee3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 g\u00e2y ho\u1ea3ng h\u1ed1t. Do \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3: n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f9ng ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean nghi ng\u1edd. Hay n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111i xem phim v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n s\u00f4i l\u00ean, b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1ed3n ch\u1ed3n. B\u1ea1n \u0111ang ng\u1ed3i tr\u00ean n\u00fai l\u1eeda, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng b\u00f9ng n\u1ed5 v\u00e0o trong c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u. T\u1ea1i sao? T\u1ea1i sao nhi\u1ec1u t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu, ghen th\u1ebf? S\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ea5y. Ai bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c? Anh \u1ea5y y\u00eau b\u1ea1n, anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00e1c. Anh \u1ea5y y\u00eau b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, y\u00eau c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9ng – anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00e1c. V\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1edbi h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u0169 – t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean th\u00f4i – c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng quen thu\u1ed9c nhi\u1ec1u h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n c\u00e1i quen thu\u1ed9c. Anh \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n. Gi\u1edd \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i, b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. Anh \u1ea5y v\u1eabn y\u00eau b\u1ea1n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i. N\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t s\u1ee9c quy\u1ebfn r\u0169 \u0111\u00f3, n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0\u01a1i \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u00f3; nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00e3 l\u1eafng \u0111\u1ecdng trong th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u1ec7. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n s\u1ee3. Anh \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u00e0y tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb b\u1ecf l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

S\u1ee3 n\u1ea3y sinh. Ch\u1ebft n\u1ea3y sinh trong b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i d\u1eebng n\u00f3 l\u1ea1i – b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i t\u1ea1o ra b\u1ee9c tr\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00e0nh quanh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n hay quanh ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p anh \u1ea5y hay c\u00f4 \u1ea5y c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec lo\u1ea1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o, b\u1ea5t k\u00ec t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n n\u00e0o v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o, \u0111\u1ec3 cho b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y mai n\u1eefa anh \u1ea5y s\u1ebd s\u1eb5n c\u00f3 cho b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean x\u1ea5u h\u01a1n, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i h\u01a1n. B\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean ch\u00e1n h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u00edt nh\u1ea5t s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u01a1 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 kh\u00e1c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 s\u1ebd b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u01a1 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng kh\u00e1c. S\u00e2u b\u00ean trong, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u00f9ng nhau n\u1eefa; ch\u1ec9 v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t v\u1eadt l\u00ed l\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f9ng nhau.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra, b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean ho\u1ea3ng h\u1ed1t h\u01a1n v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng s\u1edf h\u1eefu h\u01a1n. T\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu l\u00e0 ch\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ebft ch\u1ebft y\u00eau. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh x\u1ea3y ra, g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. Trong tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c n\u00e0y n\u00f3 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh x\u1ea3y ra.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00f4 s\u1edf h\u1eefu, v\u00f4 ghen tu\u00f4ng, khi m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i y\u00eau kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 n\u1ea3y sinh trong b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c n\u1eefa, \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n li\u00ean t\u1ee5c tr\u00e0n ng\u1eadp. N\u1ebfu ai \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f9ng chia s\u1ebb, t\u1ed1t, b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u01a1n. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ai c\u00f9ng chia s\u1ebb, r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t, b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/p>\n

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T\u1eeb “Coi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 d\u1ec5”, T.1, Ch.14 T\u00f4i c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1ee3 \u1ed1ng n\u01b0\u1edbc