T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, Susan n\u00e0y, r\u1eb1ng cam k\u1ebft l\u00e0 tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n. V\u00e0 ai \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd nghe n\u00f3i t\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n kh\u00f4ng? Kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n… ch\u1ec9 l\u00fac ban \u0111\u1ea7u th\u00f4i, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac n\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u n\u1eafm gi\u1eef b\u1ea1n th\u00ec qu\u00e1 tr\u1ec5 r\u1ed3i. L\u00fac ban \u0111\u1ea7u n\u00f3 d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng, \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd, v\u00ec c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ed1i t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 b\u1ecb s\u1edf h\u1eefu b\u1edfi ho\u00e1 ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 sinh h\u1ecdc, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111ang nh\u00ecn m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n
Khi b\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u01b0\u1eddi. H\u1ecd ngh\u0129, \u2018Anh n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1t r\u1ed3!’ M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u1ecfi, ‘Anh th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i g\u00ec trong ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 n\u00e0y?’ M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, ‘C\u00f4 th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i g\u00ec trong anh n\u00e0y?’ Nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau li\u00ean t\u1ee5c th\u1ea5y m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 – \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ecdi lo\u1ea1i \u1ea3o gi\u00e1c. Trong khu\u00f4n m\u1eb7t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i r\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u00e0y ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y tr\u0103ng! V\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y trong ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ecdi lo\u1ea1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf! C\u00f4 \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tin \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd x\u1ea3y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y hay s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa. N\u00f3 \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean v\u00e0 l\u1ea7n cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng!<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao trong m\u1ecdi ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u00e1ch di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t ‘r\u01a1i v\u00e0o y\u00eau’. N\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o – n\u00f3 l\u00e0 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u1eeb th\u00f4ng minh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u1eeb nh\u00e2n t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, n\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o trong m\u01b0\u01a1ng! V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u1ecfi c\u00e1i m\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u1eefa! Cam k\u1ebft c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0, ‘Anh (Em) r\u01a1i v\u00e0o m\u00e3i m\u00e3i,’ cho n\u00ean c\u00e1i m\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1ea5m m\u1ed3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n
H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh n\u1ea5m m\u1ed3 c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi – v\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n c\u1ea3. \u0110i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n l\u00e0 y\u00eau, nh\u01b0ng y\u00eau l\u00e0 \u0111o\u00e1 hoa tinh t\u1ebf; b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o n\u00f3. \u0110i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n c\u00f3 t\u00ednh nh\u1ea5t th\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng d\u01b0\u1edbi t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a y\u00eau b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft. V\u00e0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u1ecfi cam k\u1ebft. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng ni\u1ec1m tin n\u00e0y: r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i trung th\u00e0nh v\u1edbi l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i nh\u1ea5t qu\u00e1n, r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh b\u1ea5t k\u00ec l\u1eddi n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i ra. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb ph\u00ed ho\u00e0i. \u0110i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n khi c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi y\u00eau l\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t th\u1eddi; n\u00f3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n cho kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n.<\/p>\n
S\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i quan h\u1ec7, v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa hai \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y. Y\u00eau, kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc n\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh quan h\u1ec7, l\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c. V\u00e0 khi b\u1ea1n trong l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng l\u1ec5 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 vui v\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5, nh\u01b0ng ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 l\u00e0 t\u1eeb t\u1ee5c t\u0129u, x\u1ea5u xa. Ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb m\u1eafc v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. Y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra; ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m n\u00f3. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c k\u00e9o l\u00ea! B\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh k\u1ebb t\u1eed v\u00ec \u0111\u1ea1o. B\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u mang c\u00e2y ch\u1eef th\u1eadp tr\u00ean vai ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t Christ…<\/p>\n
Nh\u00ecn xem m\u1ecdi \u00f4ng ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111ang mang c\u00e2y ch\u1eef th\u1eadp! Nh\u00ecn c\u00e1c b\u00e0 v\u1ee3 m\u00e0 xem! Kh\u00f4ng ai d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. H\u1ecd li\u00ean t\u1ee5c c\u00e3i v\u00e3, li\u00ean t\u1ee5c \u0111\u00e1nh nhau, li\u00ean t\u1ee5c ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 l\u1eabn nhau, thu nhau th\u00e0nh h\u00e0ng ho\u00e1, th\u00e0nh ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n. V\u1ee3 \u0111ang d\u00f9ng ch\u1ed3ng, ch\u1ed3ng \u0111ang d\u00f9ng v\u1ee3. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u00ec nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ecbnh kh\u00e1c nhau – v\u1ee3 d\u00f9ng ch\u1ed3ng v\u00ec ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ecbnh kinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng d\u00f9ng v\u1ee3 v\u00ec ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ecbnh d\u1ee5c – nh\u01b0ng c\u1ea3 hai \u0111ang d\u00f9ng l\u1eabn nhau. V\u00e0 l\u00e0m sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta b\u1ecb d\u00f9ng?<\/p>\n
Cho n\u00ean kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc ch\u1ed3ng n\u00f3i, ‘T\u1ed1i nay th\u00ec sao?’ v\u1ee3 l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c n\u00f3i, ‘\u0110ang \u0111au \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u00e2y,’ hay c\u00f4 \u1ea5y n\u1ed5i c\u01a1n tam b\u00e0nh hay b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00e3i v\u00e3. Cho n\u00ean khi ch\u1ed3ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m t\u00ecnh v\u1edbi v\u1ee3, anh ta ph\u1ea3i mang kem v\u00e0 hoa v\u00e0 \u00e1o sari, hay c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 t\u00ednh kinh t\u1ebf; th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 kinh doanh, th\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 cho v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn.<\/p>\n
\u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n – b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111ang ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n. V\u00e2ng, n\u1ebfu y\u00eau tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 \u00fd th\u1ee9c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00f3 ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng – n\u00f3 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n.<\/p>\n
Y\u00eau b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 v\u00f4 \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 c\u00f3 t\u00ednh con v\u1eadt. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh \u00fd th\u1ee9c – \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u1ed9ng v\u1edbi thi\u1ec1n – th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00f3 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 cho n\u00f3, c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p kh\u00e1c, h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ecb kh\u00e1c; th\u1ebf th\u00ec n\u00f3 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n v\u00ec \u00fd th\u1ee9c ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i v\u00ec y\u00eau. V\u00e0 \u00fd th\u1ee9c l\u00e0m thay \u0111\u1ed5i y\u00eau t\u1eeb m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 th\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i; n\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed5i y\u00eau th\u00e0nh t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c, n\u00f3 cho t\u1ef1 do.<\/p>\n
Kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u00f3 t\u00ednh thi\u1ec1n, b\u1ea1n d\u1eebng vi\u1ec7c thu ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00e0nh v\u1eadt. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 v\u1ee3, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c ph\u00e1p l\u00ed. C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau t\u1eeb t\u1ef1 do, t\u1eeb ni\u1ec1m vui. B\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau. V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n n\u00f3i l\u1eddi t\u1ea1m bi\u1ec7t v\u1edbi nhau v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng l\u1edbn lao, l\u00f2ng bi\u1ebft \u01a1n, v\u00ec b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft \u01a1n ch\u1ee9; kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 chua ch\u00e1t trong n\u00f3.<\/p>\n
\u00dd th\u1ee9c ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n theo hai c\u00e1ch: n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n cho b\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 do. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi; kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u00ednh s\u1edf h\u1eefu trong n\u00f3. Khi y\u00eau tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1edf h\u1eefu trong n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 lo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb trong n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ghen tu\u00f4ng trong n\u00f3. V\u00e0 khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ghen tu\u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1edf h\u1eefu, c\u00f3 t\u1ef1 do.<\/p>\n
T\u1ef1 do ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n, th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n. V\u00e0 kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc y\u00eau b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u trao t\u1ef1 do cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c \u0111i t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng t\u1eeb n\u00f3, v\u00ec ham mu\u1ed1n l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 y\u00eau. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ecdn gi\u1eefa y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do, th\u1ebf th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u00fd th\u1ee9c s\u1ebd ch\u1ecdn t\u1ef1 do v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00f4 \u00fd th\u1ee9c s\u1ebd ch\u1ecdn y\u00eau.<\/p>\n
T\u1ea1i sao Ph\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ed1n kh\u1ecfi cung \u0111i\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y? \u0110\u00e3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 y\u00eau, th\u1ef1c ra c\u00f2n nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u00eau th\u1ee5. B\u1ed1 \u00f4ng \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eadp h\u1ee3p m\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p s\u1eb5n c\u00f3 trong v\u01b0\u01a1ng qu\u1ed1c; \u00f4ng \u1ea5y b\u1ecb bao quanh b\u1edfi to\u00e0n \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p. \u00d4ng \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ed1n \u0111i – \u00f4ng \u1ea5y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c. M\u1ed9t ham mu\u1ed1n l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 t\u1ef1 do tr\u1ed7i d\u1eady trong \u00f4ng \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao \u1edf ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0110\u00f4ng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i t\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 moksha: moksha ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ‘t\u1ef1 do tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i’ – n\u00f3 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng cao h\u01a1n. Jesus g\u1ecdi Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf l\u00e0 ‘t\u00ecnh y\u00eau’ – \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 ch\u00fat \u00edt th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n. Ph\u1eadt g\u1ecdi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 ni\u1ebft b\u00e0n, ‘t\u1ef1 do tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i’, tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c b\u1ea1n th\u1eadm ch\u00ed t\u1ef1 do kh\u1ecfi c\u00e1i ng\u00e3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. C\u00e1i ng\u00e3 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c, l\u00e0 gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 do kh\u1ecfi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9, ngay c\u1ea3 kh\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do thu\u1ea7n khi\u1ebft!<\/p>\n
T\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n t\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111i t\u1edbi vi\u1ec7c n\u1edf hoa ch\u1ec9 trong t\u1ef1 do. Thi\u1ec1n s\u1ebd \u0111em t\u1edbi t\u1ef1 do.<\/p>\n
V\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i y\u00eau: n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u01b0\u1edbc th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n t\u1ef1 do, v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u hay l\u00e0 c\u00f3 y\u00eau nh\u01b0 h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m quanh b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 y\u00eau l\u00e0 chu vi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u1ec3 y\u00eau l\u00e0 chu vi v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m, v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 b\u1ea3n th\u1ec3 to\u00e0n b\u1ed9, m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3n th\u1ec3 to\u00e0n th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n
Nh\u01b0ng, Susan, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n.<\/p>\n
B\u1ea1n \u0111ang h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i: L\u00e0m sao hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi nhau?<\/p>\n
H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft. Cam k\u1ebft l\u00e0 h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i, kh\u00f4ng h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi nhau. Cam k\u1ebft ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi c\u00e1i to\u00e0n th\u1ec3, kh\u00f4ng h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1edbi nhau.<\/p>\n
L\u00e0m sao m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n? B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi.<\/p>\n
N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n \u0111\u00e2u – v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf m\u1ecdi n\u01a1i – n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n th\u00f4i. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi li\u00ean t\u1ee5c n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ed5n, m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t. Ph\u1ecfng c\u00f3 \u00edch g\u00ec m\u00e0 ph\u01a1i b\u00e0y n\u1ed7i kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta? Ph\u1ecfng c\u00f3 \u00edch g\u00ec m\u00e0 ph\u01a1i v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta ra? Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta li\u00ean t\u1ee5c che gi\u1ea5u ch\u00fang – ph\u01a1i ra v\u1ebft th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta l\u00e0 b\u1ebd m\u1eb7t, cho n\u00ean m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd r\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 di\u1ec5n ra t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p. H\u1ecd li\u00ean t\u1ee5c m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi, h\u1ecd li\u00ean t\u1ee5c \u0111\u00e8 n\u00e9n n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n
Friedrich Nietzsche t\u01b0\u01a1ng truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i, ‘T\u00f4i li\u00ean t\u1ee5c m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 c\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1edfi l\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu t\u00f4i KH\u00d4NG m\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u kh\u00f3c.’ M\u1ec9m c\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch che \u0111\u1eady n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft: b\u1ea1n d\u1ecbch chuy\u1ec3n n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u1eeb n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft sang n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 cho b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qu\u00ean \u0111i n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Nh\u01b0ng m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ea7y n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft.<\/p>\n
T\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a h\u00e0ng ngh\u00ecn ng\u01b0\u1eddi, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. N\u00f3 to\u00e0n l\u00e0 kh\u1ed5, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd \u0111ang che \u0111\u1eady n\u00f3, gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra \u1ed5n tho\u1ea3.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn tri\u1ec3n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/p>\n
V\u00e0, Susan, b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i: T\u00f4i s\u1ee3 cam k\u1ebft, cho n\u00ean t\u00f4i tr\u00e1nh quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n
B\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00fang trong vi\u1ec7c s\u1ee3 cam k\u1ebft v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00fang trong vi\u1ec7c tr\u00e1nh quan h\u1ec7, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eebng tr\u00e1nh k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i. \u0110\u1eebng l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t k\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o th\u00e0nh duy nh\u1ea5t, c\u1ee9 th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n th\u00f4i. \u0110\u1ec3 y\u00eau n\u1ea3y sinh t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft, \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. L\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c y\u00eau \u0111i. \u0110\u1eebng l\u00e0m n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh quan h\u1ec7, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c y\u00eau.<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 ba giai \u0111o\u1ea1n. Quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t; n\u00f3 c\u00f3 t\u00ednh con v\u1eadt. Y\u00eau nh\u01b0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n – h\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n th\u1edf, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 y\u00eau hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi. V\u00e0 y\u00eau \u1edf c\u00e1ch di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t; b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n y\u00eau. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec n\u00f3 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 vi\u1ec7c th\u1edf, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n; th\u1ebf th\u00ec n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00e2m linh. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u1ee9 ba c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra ch\u1ec9 qua thi\u1ec1n. Vi\u1ec7c tinh luy\u1ec7n \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 n\u1ebfu n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111i qua to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3 kim thu\u1eadt c\u1ee7a t\u00ednh thi\u1ec1n.<\/p>\n
Susan, thi\u1ec1n \u0111i. Tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u00e0m, v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n \u0111ang ngh\u0129, v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u1ea3m. Tr\u1edf n\u00ean ng\u00e0y m\u1ed9t nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n, nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft s\u00e2u s\u1eafc, v\u00e0 ph\u00e9p m\u00e0u b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u x\u1ea3y ra. Khi b\u1ea1n nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, m\u1ecdi lo\u1ea1i ni\u1ec1m tin b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, m\u00ea t\u00edn tan bi\u1ebfn, tan t\u00e1c, b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i bay h\u01a1i v\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u1ec3 b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea7y \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng. T\u1eeb \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng \u0111\u00f3, y\u00eau l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n
V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft ch\u00fat n\u00e0o; ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta s\u1ed1ng t\u1eeb kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc sang kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc, m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t, \u0111am m\u00ea, to\u00e0n b\u1ed9. Ch\u00ednh cam k\u1ebft khi c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi t\u00f4i – l\u00e0 cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc – b\u1edfi v\u00ec kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc n\u00e0y l\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i duy nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3. Qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i n\u1eefa, t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu; s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft t\u1edbi hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i. \u0110\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cam k\u1ebft v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec cam k\u1ebft n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n
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T\u1eeb “Thi\u1ec1n: Th\u00fa v\u1ecb, S\u1ee9c s\u1ed1ng, Ph\u1ea5n kh\u1edfi v\u00e0 Sinh \u0111\u1ed9ng”, Ch.5 T\u1ef1 do v\u00e0 y\u00eau: trung t\u00e2m v\u00e0 chu vi