Deva Shanta, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. C\u00f3 tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng b\u00ean trong v\u00e0 n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, s\u1edbm hay mu\u1ed9n b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb l\u1ed9 ra l\u00e0 tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng. Do \u0111\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 an to\u00e0n h\u01a1n l\u00e0 gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi; \u00edt nh\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3 v\u1edd b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu.<\/p>\n
B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. B\u1ea1n ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra, b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i. B\u1ea1n ch\u01b0a l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh – v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. T\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng: t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 y\u00eau, t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb. Nh\u01b0ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3. V\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 y\u00eau, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ea7y y\u00eau, tu\u00f4n tr\u00e0n v\u1edbi y\u00eau.<\/p>\n
Hai h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, ch\u00fang l\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3ng. Hai hoa c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7; ch\u00fang l\u00e0 m\u1edf, ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eedi h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang t\u1edbi nhau, ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1ea3y m\u00faa trong c\u00f9ng m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi v\u00e0 trong c\u00f9ng gi\u00f3, ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i, ch\u00fang c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00ec th\u00e0o. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho hai h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m. H\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m l\u00e0 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00f3ng, kh\u00f4ng c\u1eeda s\u1ed5 – l\u00e0m sao t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7?<\/p>\n
V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra nh\u01b0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m; anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh hoa, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh hoa. M\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n, \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n; m\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n li\u1ec7u b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh hay kh\u00f4ng. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n – v\u00e0 t\u1eebng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n; t\u1eebng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc b\u1ea1n \u1edf tr\u00ean ch\u1ed7 giao \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng.<\/p>\n
H\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh kh\u00f4ng tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. H\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m; h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ti\u1ec1m n\u0103ng, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 nh\u1eadn ra l\u00e0 g\u00ec, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec v\u1ec1 hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. H\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng, h\u1ecd ch\u1ebft ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng. L\u00e0m sao h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7?<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m l\u1ed9 ra b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n – tr\u1ea7n tr\u1ee5i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n – d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch l\u00e0 an to\u00e0n h\u01a1n. Ngay c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u0169ng gi\u1eef kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch; h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 t\u1edbi ch\u1eebng ch\u1eebng, v\u00e0 h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n t\u1ec9nh t\u00e1o khi n\u00e0o quay lui. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 bi\u00ean gi\u1edbi; h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd b\u01b0\u1edbc qua bi\u00ean gi\u1edbi, h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n b\u1ecb gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n trong bi\u00ean gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n
V\u00e2ng, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i quan h\u1ec7, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 quan h\u1ec7 s\u1edf h\u1eefu: ch\u1ed3ng s\u1edf h\u1eefu v\u1ee3, v\u1ee3 s\u1edf h\u1eefu ch\u1ed3ng, b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 s\u1edf h\u1eefu con c\u00e1i, v\u00e2n v\u00e2n v\u00e0 v\u00e2n v\u00e2n. Nh\u01b0ng s\u1edf h\u1eefu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. Th\u1ef1c ra s\u1edf h\u1eefu l\u00e0 ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 m\u1ecdi kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7; b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1edf h\u1eefu. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n k\u00ednh l\u1edbn. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, b\u1ea1n t\u1edbi r\u1ea5t g\u1ea7n, r\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t g\u1ea7n, trong th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft s\u00e2u, ch\u1eddm l\u1ea5p. D\u1ea7u v\u1eady t\u1ef1 do c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb can nhi\u1ec5u, d\u1ea7u v\u1eady ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i-ng\u01b0\u1eddi, kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i-n\u00f3 – ch\u1eddm l\u1ea5p, v\u1eady m\u00e0 theo ngh\u0129a n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp.<\/p>\n
Khalil Gibran n\u00f3i: “L\u00e0 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 hai c\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee1 cho c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t m\u00e1i, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1edf h\u1eefu ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. \u0110\u1ee1 cho c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t m\u00e1i – m\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 y\u00eau.”<\/p>\n
Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau n\u00e2ng \u0111\u1ee1 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u00f4 h\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb m\u00eanh m\u00f4ng: th\u01a1 ca n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, nh\u1ea1c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nghe th\u1ea5y trong ch\u1ed7 th\u1ea7m k\u00edn s\u00e2u nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. C\u1ea3 hai c\u00f9ng n\u00e2ng \u0111\u1ee1, h\u1ecd n\u00e2ng \u0111\u1ee1 h\u00e0i ho\u00e0 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng d\u1ea7u v\u1eady h\u1ecd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp. H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m l\u1ed9 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n h\u1ecd ra cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ee3. H\u1ecd bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu<\/em>. H\u1ecd bi\u1ebft c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd; kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ee3.<\/p>\n Nh\u01b0ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m n\u00e0o. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ph\u01a1i b\u00e0y b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n b\u1ed1c m\u00f9i. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ed1c m\u00f9i ghen t\u1ecb, h\u1eadn th\u00f9, gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, th\u00e8m kh\u00e1t. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u01a1m c\u1ee7a y\u00eau, l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n, t\u1eeb bi.<\/p>\n H\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m. T\u1ea1i sao? Khi m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh hoa v\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec7u m\u00faa trong gi\u00f3 v\u00e0 v\u1edbi m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi v\u00e0 m\u1eb7t tr\u0103ng, t\u1ea1i sao h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m? C\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 trong quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd: h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m l\u00e0 an ninh h\u01a1n hoa. Hoa l\u00e0 m\u1ea3nh mai; h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea3nh mai, h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m c\u00f3 v\u1ebb m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n. Hoa c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng; ch\u1ec9 c\u01a1n gi\u00f3 m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 c\u00e1nh hoa s\u1ebd b\u1ecb th\u1ed5i \u0111i xa. H\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng th\u1ebf b\u1edfi gi\u00f3, h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7, an ninh. Hoa b\u1ecb ph\u01a1i ra – m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 tinh t\u1ebf th\u1ebf, v\u00e0 b\u1ecb ph\u01a1i ra cho nhi\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3m nguy th\u1ebf: gi\u00f3 m\u1ea1nh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1edbi, tr\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u01b0a nh\u01b0 tr\u00fat, m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qu\u00e1 n\u00f3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngu n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u00e1i hoa. B\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra cho hoa, m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra cho hoa, hoa th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean trong nguy hi\u1ec3m. Nh\u01b0ng h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m l\u00e0 an to\u00e0n; do \u0111\u00f3 h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m. Nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m l\u00e0 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n ch\u1ebft, v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 h\u1ea1t m\u1ea7m l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng ch\u00fat n\u00e0o. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 an ninh, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng. Ch\u1ebft l\u00e0 an ninh, s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 b\u1ea5t an ninh. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 mu\u1ed1n s\u1ed1ng ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng trong nguy hi\u1ec3m, trong nguy hi\u1ec3m th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec9nh cao ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn r\u1ee7i ro c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c b\u1ecb m\u1ea5t. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n tr\u00e8o l\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ec9nh cao nh\u1ea5t ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn r\u1ee7i ro c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c ng\u00e3 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3, tr\u01b0\u1ee3t xu\u1ed1ng.<\/p>\n Khao kh\u00e1t \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn, nguy hi\u1ec3m ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nguy hi\u1ec3m l\u00e0m ch\u00ednh phong c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, l\u00e0m ch\u00ednh kh\u00ed h\u1eadu tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n B\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i, Shanta: “T\u1ea1i sao t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 kh\u00f3 th\u1ebf?”<\/p>\n N\u00f3 kh\u00f3 v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. Tru\u1edbc h\u1ebft hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu \u0111i. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 sau \u0111\u00f3: tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu \u0111\u00e3.<\/p>\n Jesus n\u00f3i \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 tr\u00ean con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y: “Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft \u00f4ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm v\u01b0\u01a1ng qu\u1ed1c c\u1ee7a Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00eam v\u00e0o cho \u00f4ng.” \u0110\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t c\u1ed5 cho c\u00f9ng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111ang n\u00f3i: Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00eam v\u00e0o cho b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n Nh\u01b0ng hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu l\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m t\u1edbi nh\u01b0 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, ham mu\u1ed1n l\u1edbn v\u1ec1 phi\u00eau l\u01b0u, th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m, n\u1ea3y sinh – v\u00e0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng cho th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. T\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m – th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m l\u00e3nh th\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Nh\u01b0ng khi b\u1ea1n th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m l\u00e3nh th\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i cho ph\u00e9p v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3n ch\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m b\u1ea1n; n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 l\u01b0u th\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t chi\u1ec1u. V\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho ph\u00e9p ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00e1m hi\u1ec3m b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3, kho b\u00e1u n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 b\u00ean trong b\u1ea1n. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ee3. Th\u1ef1c ra b\u1ea1n m\u1eddi kh\u00e1ch, b\u1ea1n \u00f4m cho\u00e0ng kh\u00e1ch, b\u1ea1n g\u1ecdi kh\u00e1ch v\u00e0o, b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n kh\u00e1ch v\u00e0o. B\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n kh\u00e1ch th\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra c\u00e1i g\u00ec trong b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb n\u00f3.<\/p>\n Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 – v\u00e0 nh\u1edb, t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9; m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ebft, c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ecbnh, d\u1ea5u ch\u1ea5m h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 t\u1edbi. B\u1ea1n l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0; d\u1ea5u ch\u1ea5m h\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 t\u1edbi. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd m\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 s\u1ee5t gi\u1ea3m \u0111i. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u0103ng tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00eam n\u1eefa. S\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 n\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh kho ch\u1ee9a. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1eadt, \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7; t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 tr\u00ecnh. Tr\u00e1nh m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, v\u00e0 \u0111i ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng s\u00e2u h\u01a1n v\u00e0o trong t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n Nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i l\u00e0 v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb, kh\u00f4ng v\u00e0o danh t\u1eeb; tr\u00e1nh danh t\u1eeb nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Trong ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00e9 tr\u00e1nh, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft; nh\u01b0ng trong s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng, tr\u00e1nh ra \u0111i – v\u00ec s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u1eeb. S\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 danh t\u1eeb. S\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 danh t\u1eeb, n\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 “\u0111ang s\u1ed1ng” ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng “s\u1ed1ng.” N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 y\u00eau, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111ang y\u00eau. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 b\u00e0i h\u00e1t, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111ang h\u00e1t. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec7u m\u00faa, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111ang m\u00faa.<\/p>\n Th\u1ea5y kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y \u0111i, th\u01b0\u1edfng th\u1ee9c kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0y. \u0110i\u1ec7u m\u00faa l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n ch\u1ec9nh; c\u00e1i ch\u1ea1m cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m, b\u00e2y gi\u1edd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m. C\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ho\u00e0n ch\u1ec9nh l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ebft. S\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft d\u1ea5u ch\u1ea5m h\u1ebft; d\u1ea5u ph\u1ea9y l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5m h\u1ebft. Ngh\u1ec9 l\u1ea1i c\u00e1c ch\u1ed7 l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ebfn.<\/p>\n Shanta, thay v\u00ec ngh\u0129 c\u00e1ch t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh y\u00eau c\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean: thi\u1ec1n, hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, v\u00e0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd n\u1ea3y sinh ra t\u1eeb n\u00f3 theo c\u00e1ch ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a n\u00f3. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf n\u00ean im l\u1eb7ng, ph\u00fac l\u1ea1c, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u00f3 n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng tu\u00f4n tr\u00e0n, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh hoa, ph\u1ea3i t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m, n\u00f3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u x\u1ea3y ra. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi con v\u1eadt, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi c\u00e2y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi \u0111\u00e1.<\/p>\n Th\u1ef1c ra, hai m\u01b0\u01a1i t\u01b0 gi\u1edd m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111i tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea5t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ea5t… ch\u00e2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ea1m \u0111\u1ea5t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 b\u01a1i trong s\u00f4ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi s\u00f4ng, v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 nh\u00ecn sao, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi sao.<\/p>\n V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3i ri\u00eang. S\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n l\u00e0, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u00e0i ca th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec7u v\u0169 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c, d\u00f2ng ch\u1ea3y t\u1ef1a s\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n Thi\u1ec1n \u0111i, t\u00ecm ra trung t\u00e2m ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c, t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n: \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. C\u00f3 n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n T\u1eeb “S\u00e1ch v\u1ec1 Tr\u00ed hu\u1ec7”, T.2, Ch.27<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Deva Shanta, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. 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