Th\u1ea7y n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng, v\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ng\u1ee5 \u00fd g\u00ec b\u1edfi t\u1eeb bi?<\/p>\n
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Dorothy Kaplan, y\u00eau l\u00e0 chi\u1ebfc thang, chi\u1ebfc thang c\u00f3 ba b\u1eadc. B\u1eadc th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 d\u1ee5c, b\u1eadc gi\u1eefa l\u00e0 y\u00eau, v\u00e0 b\u1eadc cao nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n. V\u00ec ba b\u1eadc n\u00e0y c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 ngh\u00ecn l\u1ebb m\u1ed9t t\u1ed5 h\u1ee3p c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3.<\/p>\n
So s\u00e1nh th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n \u1edf b\u1eadc th\u1ee9 ba khi n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1ee5c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n – t\u1eeb bi c\u1ee7a ph\u1eadt, t\u1eeb bi m\u00e0 Atisha \u0111ang n\u00f3i t\u1edbi. Khi \u0111am m\u00ea \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch to\u00e0n b\u1ed9, m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 \u0111am m\u00ea ch\u00fat n\u00e0o, th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u1eeb bi xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n. T\u1eeb bi th\u1ef1c ch\u1ec9 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n khi n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n
Nh\u01b0ng t\u1eeb bi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n \u1edf b\u1eadc thang th\u1ee9 hai n\u1eefa, v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n \u1edf b\u1eadc thang th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t. Do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u t\u1eeb bi kh\u00e1c nhau th\u1ebf. Ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n, n\u1ebfu t\u1eeb bi xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n \u1edf b\u1eadc thang th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t, khi b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng \u1edf m\u1ee9c th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng y\u00eau, d\u1ee5c, th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u1eeb bi s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 tr\u00f2 b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u1eeb bi s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 t\u00ednh b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3: b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00ec ch\u00ednh \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111ang cho b\u1ea1n c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi.<\/p>\n
Ai \u0111\u00f3 ng\u00e3 xu\u1ed1ng s\u00f4ng v\u00e0 \u0111ang s\u1eafp ch\u1ebft \u0111u\u1ed1i. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f2n t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1ea3y xu\u1ed1ng s\u00f4ng v\u00e0 c\u1ee9u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng ni\u1ec1m vui c\u1ee7a anh ta l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 anh ta l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t th\u1ebf, \u1edf ch\u1ed7 anh ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb9p, c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u1edbn lao. Anh ta s\u1ebd n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o, anh ta s\u1ebd khoe khoang v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. T\u1eeb bi \u1edf b\u1eadc thang th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t, b\u1eadc thang c\u1ee7a d\u1ee5c, s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 tr\u00f2 b\u1ea3n ng\u00e3.<\/p>\n
\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0ng tri\u1ec7u nh\u00e0 truy\u1ec1n gi\u00e1o tr\u00ean kh\u1eafp th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi \u0111ang l\u00e0m – ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u00e8o, ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ed1m, ph\u1ee5c v\u1ee5 th\u1ed5 d\u00e2n, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nguy\u00ean thu\u1ef7 v\u00f4 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c. Nh\u01b0ng to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 ni\u1ec1m vui l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u1ed7, “T\u00f4i \u0111ang l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i.” C\u00e1i ‘t\u00f4i’ \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m m\u1ea1nh l\u00ean. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u1ec3 x\u1ea5u c\u1ee7a t\u1eeb bi. N\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5. Ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 l\u00e0 t\u1eeb d\u01a1 b\u1ea9n t\u1ee5c t\u0129u.<\/p>\n
Lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb bi th\u1ee9 hai xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n khi y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 t\u1edbi. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u1eeb bi l\u00e0 th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m: b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m, b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. B\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o trong h\u00e0i ho\u00e0 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia khu\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1ea1n. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 khoe khoang. Tr\u00ean b\u1eadc th\u1ee9 hai, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 t\u1eeb bi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd; n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i t\u1edbi. Th\u1ef1c ra b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ch\u00ednh t\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t trong n\u00f3, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec phi th\u01b0\u1eddng; b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00e2m linh khi l\u00e0m n\u00f3. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec nh\u01b0 c\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee9c trong n\u00f3: n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean, t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u1eeb bi tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n, \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n
T\u1ea1i b\u1eadc thang th\u1ee9 ba, khi n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1ee5c tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n, t\u1eeb bi xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m – th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m, m\u00e0 th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m. Th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m ng\u1ee5 \u00fd vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn \u1edf m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch; th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m ng\u1ee5 \u00fd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t v\u1edbi \u0111au kh\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia – kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111au kh\u1ed5 n\u00f3, th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i \u0111i v\u00e0o trong n\u00f3. N\u1ebfu ai \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f3c, th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m ng\u1ee5 \u00fd b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang kh\u00f3c, th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m ng\u1ee5 \u00fd b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u kh\u00f3c. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 trong kh\u00f4ng gian c\u1ea3m, b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0 h\u1ee3p, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t: vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t x\u1ea3y ra.<\/p>\n
M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1edbi Ph\u1eadt v\u00e0 h\u1ecfi, “T\u00f4i r\u1ea5t gi\u1ea7u v\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 con, v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd t\u00f4i c\u00f3 m\u1ecdi ti\u1ec1n b\u1ea1c tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c ph\u00fac \u0111\u1ee9c n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3. T\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u00e8o v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ecb \u00e1p b\u1ee9c. Xin n\u00f3i cho t\u00f4i, t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec?”<\/p>\n
V\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n k\u1ec3 Ph\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ea5t bu\u1ed3n v\u00e0 n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft ch\u1ea3y r\u00f2ng t\u1eeb m\u1eaft \u00f4ng \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n
Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t ph\u00e2n v\u00e2n. \u00d4ng ta n\u00f3i, “N\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft trong m\u1eaft th\u1ea7y sao? V\u00e0 th\u1ea7y c\u00f3 v\u1ebb bu\u1ed3n th\u1ebf – sao v\u1eady?”<\/p>\n
Ph\u1eadt n\u00f3i, “\u00d4ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ai \u0111\u00e2u, v\u00ec \u00f4ng th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u00f4ng. V\u00e0 \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u1eeb bi, v\u00ec n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng v\u1eabn \u1edf ch\u1ed7 th\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5t. Kim lo\u1ea1i c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh v\u00e0ng. Th\u1ef1c ra,” Ph\u1eadt n\u00f3i, “Ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ti\u1ebfc th\u1ebf cho \u00f4ng. \u00d4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng \u00f4ng kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu. \u00d4ng c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i, v\u00ec nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea3y ra, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft l\u00e0m sao \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu? \u00d4ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 trung t\u00e2m th\u1ef1c t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 t\u1eeb bi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tu\u00f4n ch\u1ea3y.”<\/p>\n
T\u1eeb bi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 ba ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i, v\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ba ph\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i. Th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t, d\u1ee5c. D\u1ee5c \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n ng\u1ee5 \u00fd: “Cho t\u00f4i – cho t\u00f4i m\u1ed7i l\u00fac m\u1ed9t nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111i!” N\u00f3 l\u00e0 khai th\u00e1c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u Martin Buber g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-n\u00f3: “B\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3 v\u1eadt v\u00e0 t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n d\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n.” \u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng d\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 d\u00f9ng con c\u00e1i v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i d\u00f9ng b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9, b\u1ea1n d\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n. H\u1ecd n\u00f3i, “B\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n; b\u1ea1n khi c\u1ea7n l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c.” D\u00f9ng, thu ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u00e0nh m\u00f3n h\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n
S\u1ed1ng trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi t\u00f4i-n\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 \u0111i\u1ec1u k\u00ec di\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb bao quanh b\u1edfi \u0111\u1ed3 v\u1eadt – kh\u00f4ng b\u1edfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, kh\u00f4ng b\u1edfi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, kh\u00f4ng b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 s\u1ed1ng, m\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 b\u1edfi c\u00e1c th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ed3 v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u00e8o nh\u1ea5t tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-n\u00f3. D\u1ee5c l\u00e0 khai th\u00e1c.<\/p>\n
Y\u00eau l\u00e0 kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9. Y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 khai th\u00e1c. Y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-n\u00f3, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi theo quy\u1ec1n ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3; ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3 v\u1eadt \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ecb d\u00f9ng, b\u1ecb s\u1edf h\u1eefu, b\u1ecb thao t\u00fang. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp, l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c giao ti\u1ebfp, kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb khai th\u00e1c. Y\u00eau l\u00e0 giao ti\u1ebfp c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c n\u0103ng l\u01b0\u1ee3ng.<\/p>\n
D\u1ee5c ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 “Cho t\u00f4i, cho t\u00f4i, cho t\u00f4i nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n!” Do \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 d\u1ee5c li\u00ean t\u1ee5c l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a chi\u1ebfn tranh, xung \u0111\u1ed9t, v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u0169ng n\u00f3i “Cho t\u00f4i!” C\u1ea3 hai mu\u1ed1n m\u1ed7i l\u00fac m\u1ed9t nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng cho. Do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 xung \u0111\u1ed9t, cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn gay g\u1eaft. V\u00e0 t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ai ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n s\u1ebd khai th\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. V\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 m\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 c\u01a1 b\u1eafp, anh ta \u0111\u00e3 khai th\u00e1c, anh ta \u0111\u00e3 thu \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 th\u00e0nh v\u00f4 th\u1ef1c th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n; anh ta \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 h\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. V\u00e0 s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n cho anh ta n\u1ebfu h\u1ed3n b\u1ecb ph\u00e1 hu\u1ef7 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n.<\/p>\n
Trong nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ebf k\u1ec9 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p \u0111\u1ecdc; trong nhi\u1ec1u t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p v\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec1n, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh tu s\u0129. \u0110\u00e0n b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng c\u00f4ng khai n\u00e0o, b\u1ea5t k\u00ec \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0o. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb c\u1ea7m t\u00f9 trong nh\u00e0; h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 lao \u0111\u1ed9ng r\u1ebb, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0y. V\u00e0 h\u1ecd b\u1ecb thu l\u1ea1i th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ec3 d\u1ee5c. \u0110\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ea5y kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa g\u00e1i m\u00e3i d\u00e2m v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9. V\u1ee3 b\u1ecb thu th\u00e0nh g\u00e1i m\u00e3i d\u00e2m th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean, c\u00f3 v\u1eady th\u00f4i. Quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 quan h\u1ec7, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 quy\u1ec1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1edf h\u1eefu.<\/p>\n
Y\u00eau k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 cho v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn. Y\u00eau t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng vi\u1ec7c cho, v\u00e0 y\u00eau t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng vi\u1ec7c nh\u1eadn. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 giao ti\u1ebfp. C\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng trong y\u00eau; trong quan h\u1ec7 d\u1ee5c c\u1ea3 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng. Y\u00eau c\u00f3 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9 c\u1ee7a n\u00f3.<\/p>\n
Th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi \u0111ang d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n chuy\u1ec3n t\u1edbi quan h\u1ec7 y\u00eau; do \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 r\u1ed1i ren l\u1edbn. M\u1ecdi th\u1ec3 ch\u1ebf c\u0169 \u0111ang bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t – ch\u00fang ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, v\u00ec ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-n\u00f3. C\u00e1ch giao ti\u1ebfp m\u1edbi, c\u00e1ch chia s\u1ebb m\u1edbi nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra. Ch\u00fang s\u1ebd c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ecb kh\u00e1c, h\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ecb c\u1ee7a y\u00eau, c\u1ee7a chia s\u1ebb. Ch\u00fang s\u1ebd l\u00e0 v\u00f4 s\u1edf h\u1eefu; s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1edf h\u1eefu.<\/p>\n
Th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i cao nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a y\u00eau l\u00e0 l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n. Trong l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n c\u00f3 giao c\u1ea3m. Trong d\u1ee5c c\u00f3 quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-n\u00f3, trong y\u00eau c\u00f3 quan h\u1ec7 t\u00f4i-ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Martin Buber d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i \u1edf \u0111\u00f3; truy\u1ec1n th\u1ed1ng Do Th\u00e1i c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng cho ph\u00e9p \u00f4ng \u1ea5y \u0111i xa h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t b\u01b0\u1edbc n\u1eefa ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea5y: \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 “kh\u00f4ng t\u00f4i-kh\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi” – m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 t\u00f4i v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t, m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 m\u00e0 hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n v\u1eadn h\u00e0nh nh\u01b0 hai nh\u01b0ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t. S\u1ef1 th\u1ed1ng nh\u1ea5t v\u00f4 c\u00f9ng, s\u1ef1 h\u00e0i ho\u00e0, s\u1ef1 t\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ee3p s\u00e2u, hai th\u00e2n nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t h\u1ed3n. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t cao nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a y\u00eau: t\u00f4i g\u1ecdi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u1eddi c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n.<\/p>\n
Y\u00eau c\u00f3 ba giai \u0111o\u1ea1n n\u00e0y, v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u1ee9ng c\u00f3 ba giai \u0111o\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i trong c\u00e1c t\u1ed5 h\u1ee3p kh\u00e1c nhau.<\/p>\n
Do \u0111\u00f3, Dorothy Kaplan, c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i y\u00eau th\u1ebf v\u00e0 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb bi th\u1ebf. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng nh\u1ea5t, l\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u chi\u1ebfc thang ba b\u1eadc n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a y\u00eau. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd cho b\u1ea1n c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn s\u00e2u v\u00e0o n\u01a1i b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong lo\u1ea1i y\u00eau n\u00e0o v\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i t\u1eeb bi n\u00e0o \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra cho b\u1ea1n. Quan s\u00e1t \u0111i. C\u1ea9n th\u1eadn \u0111\u1eebng v\u1eabn c\u00f2n b\u1ecb m\u1eafc v\u00e0o trong n\u00f3. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00f5i gi\u1edbi, chi\u1ec1u cao cao h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00e8o l\u00ean, c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec9nh \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi.<\/p>\n
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T\u1eeb “S\u00e1ch v\u1ec1 Tr\u00ed hu\u1ec7”, T.2, Ch.19<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Th\u1ea7y n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi. T\u00f4i bi\u1ebft v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y c\u00e1c h\u00ecnh th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau c\u1ee7a y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u1eeb bi. Th\u1ea7y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 … <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3456,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3455","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yeu-tu-bi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3455","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3455"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3455\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3457,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3455\/revisions\/3457"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3456"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3455"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3455"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/reikivietnam.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3455"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}