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Osho \u01a1i,<\/p>\n

Kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t g\u00ec gi\u1eefa khao kh\u00e1t \u0111i\u1ec1u thi\u00eang li\u00eang v\u00e0 y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c?<\/p>\n

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Prem Neeto,<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t ch\u00fat n\u00e0o – m\u1ecdi ham mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 nh\u01b0 nhau. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ham mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ec1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ham mu\u1ed1n thi\u1ec1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ham mu\u1ed1n quy\u1ec1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ham mu\u1ed1n Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u0169. \u0110i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n khao kh\u00e1t kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ea1n, \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a khao kh\u00e1t kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00ean con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n; \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng tr\u00f2 ch\u01a1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u01a1i l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng t\u1eeb m\u1edbi, v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ec3 m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n khao kh\u00e1t m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n ham mu\u1ed1n m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. T\u1ea1i sao? V\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y \u0111\u01a1n \u0111\u1ed9c. Trong b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7. C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t lo\u1ea1i tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng trong b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea5p \u0111\u1ea7y b\u1edfi s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec7n di\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. B\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c truy\u1ec1n ngh\u0129a cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd x\u1ea3y ra; n\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t v\u00e0 hi v\u1ecdng. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng – n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng theo ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111ang ham mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi c\u00f9ng l\u00ed do; ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng \u0111ang hi v\u1ecdng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng qua nhau: hai cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a \u0111ang hi v\u1ecdng t\u1eeb nhau \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ng\u1edb ng\u1ea9n c\u1ef1c k\u00ec. S\u1edbm hay mu\u1ed9n ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng n\u00e0y v\u00ec l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i, l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i hi v\u1ecdng bay h\u01a1i v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb b\u1ecf l\u1ea1i trong \u0111\u1ed1ng l\u1ed9n x\u1ed9n s\u00e2u h\u01a1n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y. L\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n

Ch\u00ednh b\u1edfi v\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y m\u00e0 Jean-Paul Sartre hay n\u00f3i: “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c.” \u00d4ng \u1ea5y d\u00f2 d\u1eabm m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 \u00fd th\u1ee9c trong b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 lo\u1ea1ng cho\u1ea1ng v\u1edb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh, m\u1eb7c d\u1ea7u c\u00e1ch \u00f4ng \u1ea5y di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00edch x\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng ph\u1ea3i v\u1eady. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c, ham mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c – \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1ecdi ch\u01b0 ph\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i su\u1ed1t nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i – kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u00ec khi Sartre n\u00f3i, “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c,” d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m cho kh\u1ed5, th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, ch\u00ednh mong \u0111\u1ee3i ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb \u0111\u1eadp v\u1ee1. Mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn, th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

Do \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec khi n\u00e0o h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00ec t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh th\u1ecbnh h\u00e0nh, c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng h\u01a1n. Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp, mong \u0111\u1ee3i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng l\u1edbn l\u1eafm; n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n ch\u00fat n\u00e0o, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng hi v\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi thi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng qua n\u00f3. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng tr\u1ea7n t\u1ee5c, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp b\u1edfi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 b\u1ea1n, \u00f4ng b\u00e0, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp b\u1edfi x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, tu s\u0129, nh\u00e0 chi\u00eam tinh, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. M\u01a1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tham gia m\u1ea5y v\u00e0o trong n\u00f3. Do \u0111\u00f3 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp \u0111i tr\u00ean n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng b\u1eb1ng ph\u1eb3ng h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u: n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec9nh, kh\u00f4ng l\u00ean v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng xu\u1ed1ng. N\u00f3 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng xa l\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed3ng b\u1eb1ng – th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng xa l\u1ed9 \u1ea4n \u0110\u1ed9 m\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng xa l\u1ed9 \u0110\u1ee9c. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00e1i g\u00ec tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh tr\u00ean n\u00f3, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u1ebft; \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0m t\u1eeb nh\u1ef1a \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng hay \u0111\u00e1 gi\u0103m tr\u1ed9n nh\u1ef1a \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng hay xi m\u0103ng – ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n ch\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng an to\u00e0n. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00f2n qua \u0111\u1ed3i n\u00fai. B\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u0111i v\u00e0o c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 b\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed3 v\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u1ed9t c\u00e2y s\u1ed1 \u1edf m\u1ecdi n\u01a1i, c\u00f3 c\u00e1c con tr\u1ecf ch\u1ec9 d\u1eabn ch\u1ed7 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u1edf, ch\u1ed7 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u0111i t\u1edbi, \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00f2n bao xa, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i t\u1eeb ch\u1ed7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c bao xa. M\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 l\u00e0 r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng; \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp v\u1eadn h\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 n\u1ebfu h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c thu x\u1ebfp x\u1ea3y ra khi b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf, ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng g\u00ec v\u1ec1 y\u00eau, v\u1ec1 d\u1ee5c, v\u1ec1 l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u coi v\u1ee3 b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 hay ch\u1ed3ng b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean c\u00f3, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n coi anh v\u00e0 ch\u1ecb b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean c\u00f3. Kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. N\u1ebfu h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n x\u1ea3y ra khi b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb, \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb nh\u1ecf, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd ngh\u0129 t\u1edbi li d\u1ecb. C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n l\u1edbn l\u00ean c\u00f9ng nhau, ch\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 v\u1ee3 l\u1edbn l\u00ean c\u00f9ng nhau nh\u01b0 anh v\u00e0 ch\u1ecb l\u1edbn l\u00ean c\u00f9ng nhau. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng nhau l\u00e2u th\u1ebf, l\u00e2u nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1edb.<\/p>\n

Khi m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng, b\u00e0 \u1ea5y m\u1edbi ch\u1ec9 b\u1ea9y tu\u1ed5i. B\u1ed1 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 m\u01b0\u1eddi hai tu\u1ed5i. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd m\u01a1 m\u1ed9ng g\u00ec l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e2y? H\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hi v\u1ecdng c\u00e1i g\u00ec? Th\u1ef1c ra h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 v\u1edf di\u1ec5n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vui th\u00edch v\u1edbi \u00e2m nh\u1ea1c, nh\u00f3m nh\u1ea1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee7 m\u1ecdi lo\u1ea1i ph\u00e1o hoa – \u0111\u00f3 th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u00edch th\u00fa – ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng g\u00ec v\u1ec1 h\u1ecd \u0111ang tham gia v\u00e0o c\u00e1i g\u00ec. V\u00e0 v\u1edbi th\u1eddi gian h\u1ecd tr\u1edf n\u00ean nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eaft r\u1ec5; h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho nhau.<\/p>\n

Nh\u01b0ng trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00ec t\u00ecnh, \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 kh\u00f3. \u1ede M\u0129, c\u1ee9 hai h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i s\u1ebd b\u1ecb tan v\u1ee1. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a li d\u1ecb: m\u1ed9t li d\u1ecb trong hai h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. V\u00e0 nh\u1edb, m\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng tan v\u1ee1 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111i v\u00e0o trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a vui v\u1ebb; n\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng \u0111i v\u00e0o, n\u00f3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n hi\u1ec7n h\u1eefu v\u00ec s\u1ef1 h\u00e8n nh\u00e1t, an ninh, an to\u00e0n m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi li\u00ean t\u1ee5c b\u00e1m l\u1ea5y. Khi h\u1ecd tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m h\u01a1n, t\u1ec9 l\u1ec7 li d\u1ecb s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng cao h\u01a1n, n\u00f3 s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng l\u1edbn h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

T\u1ea1i sao h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00ec t\u00ecnh th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i? – b\u1edfi l\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 mong \u0111\u1ee3i s\u00e2u v\u00e0 n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u00e0n th\u00e0nh. B\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i s\u1edbm nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngu. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1edbm qua \u0111i, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt qua \u0111i. N\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1ea5n n\u00e1 ti\u1ebfp… \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 tu\u1ef3 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 bao nhi\u00eau d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00e8n n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u1ea5n n\u00e1 c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u0169ng c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li d\u1ecb ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c sau khi tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt qua \u0111i v\u00ec h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u0169ng s\u1ebd qua \u0111i, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u1ea3o v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 mang \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u1ea3o v\u1ecdng th\u00f4i. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ea7u v\u1ed3ng, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng trong th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi c\u1ee7a th\u01a1 ca, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ee7a th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

Sartre l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang khi \u00f4ng \u1ea5y n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c, nh\u01b0ng theo c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 \u00fd th\u1ee9c \u00f4ng \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i t\u1edbi r\u1ea5t g\u1ea7n v\u1edbi ch\u00e2n l\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Ch\u01b0 ph\u1eadt n\u00f3i: Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c m\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c. L\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c ch\u1ecbu tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c tr\u01b0ng r\u1ea5t th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u ch\u00e2m ng\u00f4n c\u1ee7a Murphy n\u00f3i: Ph\u1ea1m l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m l\u00e0 t\u00ednh con ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n c\u00f3 t\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u Sartre \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m: B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea1m l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m, gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5y ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ham mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n; n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c n\u00e0y \u0111ang g\u00e2y ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 cho b\u1ea1n – thay \u0111\u1ed5i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. Cho n\u00ean sau li d\u1ecb n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c, v\u00e0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c v\u00e0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c. V\u00e0 n\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng \u1ea3o v\u1ecdng b\u1ea1n s\u1ed1ng l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i! V\u00e0 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u00f4ng minh, kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd th\u1ea5y ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1: r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c thay \u0111\u1ed5i to\u00e0n th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi, l\u1eb7p \u0111i l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ea1n t\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f9ng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n s\u1ebd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i v\u00ec b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn nh\u01b0 c\u0169. B\u1ea5t k\u00ec ch\u1ed7 n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n \u0111i b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nh\u01b0 c\u0169; t\u00e2m b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn \u1edf c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i. C\u00f3 l\u1eabn l\u1ed9n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00e1nh s\u00e1ng b\u00ean trong b\u1ea1n, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i.<\/p>\n

Khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean ch\u00e1n ng\u00e1n v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ra m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf; \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u thi\u00eang li\u00eang. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf c\u00f3 t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ch\u00fat \u00edt theo ngh\u0129a r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng v\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd g\u1eb7p ng\u00e0i; b\u1edfi l\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n r\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt, tu\u1ea7n tr\u0103ng m\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 qua \u0111i; b\u1edfi l\u1ebd \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n r\u1eb1ng s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c s\u1ed1ng c\u00f9ng v\u1edbi Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c hi v\u1ecdng. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh: n\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c tho\u1ea1i, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

M\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3 v\u00e0 c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u va ch\u1ea1m v\u1edbi nhau, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u chi ph\u1ed1i l\u1eabn nhau, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ghen l\u1eabn nhau, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u s\u1edf h\u1eefu l\u1eabn nhau. B\u1ea1n s\u1ee3 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia. V\u00e0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1ea5t – ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia l\u00e0 tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n v\u1eady. M\u01a1 n\u00e0y b\u1ecb tan v\u1ee1, th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i m\u01a1 kh\u00e1c….<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a m\u01a1 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o: b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c m\u01a1, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ecb tan v\u1ee1. M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n – \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7u nguy\u1ec7n, b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u00e0m g\u00ec? Vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3i cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n th\u00f4i! N\u00f3 gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ed5i s\u00e1o trong b\u00f3ng t\u1ed1i – kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o nghe.<\/p>\n

Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 n\u00e0o. Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ai \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3i ri\u00eang, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mong \u01b0\u1edbc. Nh\u01b0ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, m\u1ecdi m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, nh\u1eefng quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i, \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m cho b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1ec9nh t\u00e1o v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 ki\u1ec7n r\u1eb1ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n c\u1ea3 l\u00e0 b\u1ecf to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 ham mu\u1ed1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n \u0111ang c\u1ed1 ham mu\u1ed1n c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3: b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c hi v\u1ecdng trong nhi\u1ec1u ki\u1ebfp s\u1ed1ng. S\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec t\u1eadn c\u00f9ng n\u00e0o cho n\u00f3; cu\u1ed9c h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng k\u1ebft th\u00fac. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i ch\u00fat n\u00e0o; b\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng trong m\u01a1 thu\u1ea7n khi\u1ebft. \u0110\u1ea7u ti\u00ean b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng trong m\u01a1 nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3, cho n\u00ean gi\u1eefa hai th\u1ef1c t\u1ea1i m\u01a1 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh b\u1ecb nghi\u1ec1n n\u00e1t – v\u00e0 ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb nghi\u1ec1n n\u00e1t. Nh\u01b0ng b\u00e2y gi\u1edd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c, b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m ra Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n theo c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n.<\/p>\n

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Neeto, b\u1ea1n h\u1ecfi t\u00f4i: Kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t g\u00ec gi\u1eefa khao kh\u00e1t \u0111i\u1ec1u thi\u00eang li\u00eang v\u00e0 y\u00eau ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c<\/em>?<\/p>\n

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Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t ch\u00fat n\u00e0o – khao kh\u00e1t l\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec t\u00f4i s\u1ebd g\u1ee3i \u00fd c\u00e1i g\u00ec? C\u1ed1 hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a khao kh\u00e1t, b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n. Khi b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n, trong ch\u00ednh vi\u1ec7c hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u00f3 vi\u1ec7c ham mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng s\u1ef1 m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n vui v\u1ebb v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhu c\u1ea7u v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ph\u1ee5 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng y\u00eau. Th\u1ef1c ra th\u1ebf v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 th\u1ebf b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng y\u00eau v\u00ec th\u1ebf th\u00ec y\u00eau s\u1ebd c\u00f3 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9, ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c chia s\u1ebb. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 k\u1ebb \u0103n xin, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd l\u00e0 ho\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ebf. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd y\u00eau v\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 cho, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd y\u00eau v\u00ec b\u1ea1n tu\u00f4n tr\u00e0n v\u1edbi ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb n\u00f3 v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ebf th\u00ec n\u00f3 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ch\u00fat n\u00e0o.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4i g\u1ecdi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhu c\u1ea7u t\u1ea1o ra b\u1ea5t k\u00ec s\u1ef1 l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c n\u00e0o, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhu c\u1ea7u t\u1ea1o ra b\u1ea5t k\u00ec h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n n\u00e0o. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, nh\u01b0ng ng\u00e0y mai v\u1eabn c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1edf, n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb \u0111\u00f3ng. Ng\u00e0y mai kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 h\u00f4m nay \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eafng \u0111\u1ecdng, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 coi n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3; ng\u00e0y mai b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u00edch chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi c\u00f9ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y, c\u00f9ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00edch chia s\u1ebb hay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch chia s\u1ebb. Cho d\u00f9 m\u1ed9t trong hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb, th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i l\u1eddi t\u1ea1m bi\u1ec7t l\u1eabn nhau v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng bi\u1ebft \u01a1n l\u1edbn v\u00ec m\u1ecdi ni\u1ec1m vui v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e3 di\u1ec5n ra tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0111\u1ea7y bi\u1ebft \u01a1n. Kh\u00f4ng o\u00e1n gi\u1eadn, kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n, kh\u00f4ng c\u00e3i c\u1ecd, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n chia tay. B\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft, “Con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta t\u00e1ch ra b\u00e2y gi\u1edd, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng g\u1eb7p nhau l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa,” cho n\u00ean b\u1ea1n ra \u0111i v\u1edbi b\u00e0i ca trong tim, v\u1edbi n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean m\u00f4i; v\u1edbi c\u00e1i \u00f4m, v\u1edbi c\u00e1i h\u00f4n, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n ra \u0111i. C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n ra \u0111i trong s\u1ef1 th\u00e2n thi\u1ec7n s\u00e2u s\u1eafc. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 li d\u1ecb v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 b\u1ea5t k\u00ec h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u00fat n\u00e0o ngay ch\u1ed7 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb bu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o nhau cho n\u00ean c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng t\u1ef1 do, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n

Hai c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 hai c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, hai c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n l\u00e2m v\u00e0o quan h\u1ec7 l\u00e0m m\u1ea5t t\u00ednh c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i, v\u00e0 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u x\u1ea5u. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 do c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n; ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3. C\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 do c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ai \u0111\u00e3 thu \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea5t k\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u1eeb n\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao Sartre n\u00f3i, “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba ng\u1ee5c.” Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i v\u1eabn mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eafc b\u1ea1n: v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. Khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1i v\u00f4 t\u00edch s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n, c\u00e1i ngu xu\u1ea9n c\u1ef1c k\u00ec c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n, th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 theo c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c to\u00e0n b\u1ed9; thay \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 ch\u1ea5t x\u1ea3y ra cho b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n; b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac qua ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. B\u1ea1n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac t\u1edbi m\u1ee9c b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n chia s\u1ebb n\u00f3 v\u1edbi ai \u0111\u00f3, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00ed do t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7.<\/p>\n

M\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n trong kh\u1ed5, t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n trong ph\u00fac l\u1ea1c.<\/p>\n

V\u00e0 khi b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o th\u1ef1c l\u00e0 g\u00ec: t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i. N\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 khao kh\u00e1t v\u1ec1 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u1ecdi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 g\u00ec trong \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n c\u1ea3 l\u00e0 g\u1ecdi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i v\u00ec m\u1ed9t khi b\u1ea1n g\u1ecdi n\u00f3 l\u00e0 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, m\u1ecdi li\u00ean k\u1ebft c\u1ed5 v\u1edbi t\u1eeb n\u00e0y l\u1ebbn v\u00e0o v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t \u00f4ng gi\u00e0 ng\u1ed3i \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 tr\u00ean ngai v\u00e0ng tr\u00ean tr\u1eddi \u0111ang nh\u00ecn b\u1ea1n, theo d\u00f5i b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i nh\u1eefng \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng k\u00ec l\u1ea1 x\u1ea3y ra t\u1eeb \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Carl Gustav Jung nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i trong t\u1ef1 truy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng su\u1ed1t c\u1ea3 th\u1eddi th\u01a1 \u1ea5u c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y, \u00f4ng \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1edbi duy nh\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng: r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf ng\u1ed3i \u1edf tr\u00ean v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f4i khi ng\u00e0i \u0111i \u0111\u00e1i th\u00ec sao? – hay \u0111i \u1ec9a, th\u00ec sao? V\u00e0 b\u1ed1 \u00f4ng \u1ea5y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t tu s\u0129 cho n\u00ean \u00f4ng \u1ea5y th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecfi b\u1ed1 \u00f4ng \u1ea5y v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ed1 r\u1ea5t b\u1ef1c m\u00ecnh. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ed1 n\u00f3i, “Th\u00f4i \u0111i! \u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady!” Th\u1ebf l\u00e0 \u00f4ng \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e8 n\u00e9n nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi n\u00e0y. \u00d4ng \u1ea5y c\u00e0ng \u0111\u00e8 n\u00e9n ch\u00fang, ch\u00fang c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3. \u00d4ng \u1ea5y li\u00ean t\u1ee5c b\u1ecb \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1edbi \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0y: th\u1ebf th\u00ec c\u00e1i g\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra? Ng\u00e0i ph\u1ea3i \u0103n, ng\u00e0i ph\u1ea3i u\u1ed1ng, v\u00e0 ng\u1ed3i tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea7u, b\u1ea5t k\u00ec l\u00fac n\u00e0o…. Th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i \u00f4ng \u1ea5y b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u m\u01a1 r\u1eb1ng Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf \u0111\u00e1i v\u00e0 n\u00f3 r\u01a1i kh\u1eafp tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t v\u00e0 c\u1ee9t c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng \u1ea5y r\u01a1i kh\u1eafp tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea5t. B\u1ea3n th\u00e2n \u00f4ng \u1ea5y tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u1ea5t m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m, “M\u00ecnh l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec…?” Xem \u0111\u1ea5y! N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 ng\u00e0i \u1edf tr\u00ean, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra – b\u1ea5t k\u00ec kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc n\u00e0o!<\/p>\n

Th\u1ebf r\u1ed3i nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi ngu xu\u1ea9n n\u1ea3y sinh; t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng ngu xu\u1ea9n ch\u00fang nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1edbi.<\/p>\n

Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00fat n\u00e0o, Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf l\u00e0 ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t – t\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf. S\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ea7y t\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y vui v\u1ebb, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e3n nguy\u1ec7n, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng, th\u1ebf th\u00ec suy ng\u1eabm v\u1ec1 ham mu\u1ed1n, th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i v\u00f4 t\u00edch s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n, ham mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ecf l\u1ea1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ham mu\u1ed1n. \u0110\u1ed9t nhi\u00ean an b\u00ecnh l\u1edbn gi\u00e1ng l\u00ean b\u1ea1n. Trong an b\u00ecnh \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ef1 t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u00f9ng n\u1ed5. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u00fac l\u1ea1c. Ph\u00fac l\u1ea1c \u0111\u00f3 r\u1ea1ng ng\u1eddi nh\u01b0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, n\u00f3 chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, n\u00f3 chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi c\u00e2y c\u1ed1i, n\u00f3 chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi con v\u1eadt, n\u00f3 chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi m\u00e2y v\u00e0 sao. Chung cu\u1ed9c n\u00f3 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u chi\u1ebfu t\u1edbi to\u00e0n th\u1ec3 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i l\u00e0 g\u00ec. Th\u1ebf th\u00ec b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi l\u1eb7n v\u00e0 trong ch\u00ednh m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi l\u1eb7n b\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf – kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i Jesus b\u1ecb \u0111\u00f3ng \u0111inh hay Krishna th\u1ed5i s\u00e1o; nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i \u0111\u00f3 to\u00e0n l\u00e0 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng tr\u1ebb con. B\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y t\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 bao gi\u1edd quan s\u00e1t m\u1eb7t tr\u1eddi l\u1eb7n \u0111\u1eb9p ch\u01b0a? T\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf n\u00e0o h\u01a1n n\u1eefa c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3? B\u1ea1n th\u1ea5y \u0111o\u00e1 h\u1ed3ng – t\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf n\u00e0o h\u01a1n n\u1eefa c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3? Hay ch\u1ec9 nh\u00e0nh c\u1ecf \u0111ung \u0111\u01b0a trong gi\u00f3…. M\u1ecdi m\u1ea7u xanh n\u00e0y v\u00e0 m\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ecf v\u00e0 mi\u1ebfng v\u00e0ng! To\u00e0n th\u1ec3 s\u1ef1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ea7y th\u1ebf, tr\u00e0n \u0111\u1ea7y th\u1ebf, tu\u00f4n tr\u00e0n th\u1ebf v\u1edbi im l\u1eb7ng, v\u1edbi an b\u00ecnh, v\u1edbi ni\u1ec1m vui, v\u1edbi c\u1ef1c l\u1ea1c. Khi b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng im l\u1eb7ng, an b\u00ecnh, vui v\u1ebb, b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 v\u1edbi n\u00f3. Vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1o quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o.<\/p>\n

T\u00f4n gi\u00e1o kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ham mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 t\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf. V\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 l\u00e0m sao t\u00ecm ra Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 l\u00e0m sao b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c ham mu\u1ed1n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1edb, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1edb m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t nh\u1ea5n m\u1ea1nh: n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00ecm v\u00e0 ki\u1ebfm Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u0169, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd thay \u0111\u1ed5i. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ed1 hi\u1ec3u b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n, b\u1ea1n nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111i qua c\u00e1ch m\u1ea1ng tri\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3 v\u00ec b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o c\u00f3 ch\u00fat \u00edt th\u00f4ng minh nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh th\u1ea5y c\u00e1i v\u00f4 t\u00edch s\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a ham mu\u1ed1n – n\u00f3 ch\u1eb3ng d\u1eabn t\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2u c\u1ea3. V\u00e0 kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc ham mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t kh\u1ecfi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t t\u1edbi.<\/p>\n

B\u1ea1n bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u00f3; ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 duy nh\u1ea5t ham mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m sao l\u00e3ng b\u1ea1n. L\u00fac th\u00ec ham mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 ti\u1ec1n, l\u00fac th\u00ec ham mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ebf, l\u00fac th\u00ec v\u00ec quy\u1ec1n, danh, l\u00fac th\u00ec v\u00ec c\u00f5i tr\u1eddi, thi\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea5t k\u00ec ham mu\u1ed1n n\u00e0o c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m sao l\u00e3ng b\u1ea1n kh\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ham mu\u1ed1n, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u? M\u1ecdi ham mu\u1ed1n d\u1eabn b\u1ea1n \u0111i xa kh\u1ecfi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n b\u1ea1n. Khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ham mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00e2m trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. Ch\u00ednh vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u00e2m \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ph\u00fac l\u1ea1c, l\u00e0 c\u1ef1c l\u1ea1c, l\u00e0 samadhi, l\u00e0 ni\u1ebft b\u00e0n.<\/p>\n

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T\u1eeb “b\u01b0\u1edbc trong Thi\u1ec1n, ng\u1ed3i trong Thi\u1ec1n”, Ch.7<\/p>\n

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